It’s November – the month we celebrate Thanksgiving! October was a pretty stressful month for me in the foster care world, so this month, I am challenging myself to write for 30 days straight on things I am thankful for in that same foster care world.
Today, I am thankful that there are people out there that are willing to open their homes and hearts to a kiddo in need. When the foster care system works the way it is supposed to work, the love that foster parents show is a great testament to the goodness in humanity.
Before a foster family can open their home and their hearts to a child that needs a safe place to live, they must go through a lot of training, a rather intense background check, and an invasive a thorough home study. When a child or children are placed in their home, the foster parents’ work
doubles quadruples. Often a kiddo will come into a foster home with literally nothing but the clothes on his back. The foster parents are responsible for covering the basics for the kiddo, like clothes and food…and getting the kiddo enrolled in school or daycare, finding a doctor, a dentist, a therapist, oh the list goes on and on. And of course, they are doing all this while the kiddo is going through some issues because he has been taken from the only home he has known, the state is looking over their shoulder, and random strangers are parading through their home. They are doing this all for a kiddo that they have never met. How awesome is that?
Yes, a lot of foster parents are adoption-motivated (as I am), but the chances of adopting through foster care on the first placement are small. I heard that it takes an average of 5 placements before an adoption-motivated foster family can adopt from foster care because 85% of children return to their family. In the meantime, that is a lot of love and compassion flowing from one home.
To all the foster parents out there – you are making a tremendous difference. You are providing kiddos a chance at happiness, belonging, safety, and love. And I am thankful for you!